Let's Be Honest...

Hello Hunnies!!

I wanted to start a new series on my blog where I get to talk about anything and I write about my feelings about different topics. That is why it’s called let’s be honest because honestly is the best key and for everyone to hear MY truth. I will say my true opinion and views about any topic that I feel passionate about because it will bring up a conversations. Speaking and freely talking about ANY topics brings out questions and you gain knowledge from different people about it all. Your opening your mind and seeing a different way into that topic which allows you to build on what you feel as well. So my first topic will be.....(drum roll PLEASE!!!) 

TAKING OFF THE HIJAB

So I been a hijabi for 4 years now and honestly it’s been hard but I wouldn’t change my decision for the world because I chose to wear it and wasn’t forced into it. That’s what people think but actually that’s not always the truth because not everyone who wears it was forced by their parents. The reason why I chose to wear it was because I wanted to be closer to my faith and I felt empowered by doing it. Do not get me wrong I was thinking about for some time prior and I kept delaying it as “I wanted to be ready”. Why I put it in quotes is because I was always ready but just didn’t have the confidence to do it. So literally I woke up and I remember this day so vividly. It was a Monday and I had college that day, so I just told myself it’s today. So I did and I walked out with the hijab and the first time as a hijabi since that day I have not taken it off. I have taken it off when it’s an all woman event but that’s very rare. My journey as a hijabi has honestly been fun and enjoyable because I have stayed myself and been living my life as normal. That’s a little background into me wearing it and why I wanted to talk about it. 

So let’s get started about the topic. So taking of your hijab because hijabis on YouTube and on Instagram are doing it more now than before.  Honestly what baffles me is that you start your career as a hajabi and you build your income from that so taking it off just defeats the object of your whole career. Everyone has different views and opinions on why they have taken it off and they can do it don’t get me wrong. They have every right to do it and I won’t judge them for it. However, it just confuses me because as a viewer I’m like did you build this and changed to fit in or are you getting so much hate that people’s views have made you taken it off. So which one is it????

I get it you get a lot of hate comments on how you should wear it which isn’t nice at all. I haven’t experienced but I can only imagine what it feels like but also why do people do it? I think that should be another post. So I understand hate comments can influence you into that decision but shouldn’t you just prove them wrong and not let it effect you because if you do take it off. You are letting them win and they have succeeded in what they wanted to accomplish. However, you are still gonna get hate because you taken it off. So you haven’t done anything for yourself actually, if you get my point. You will get hate regardless. So you can’t actually escape that either way.

It’s also a big struggle on what to wear when you are one because before I started wearing the hijab where there wasn’t modest clothing at the time however as years gone on there has been such a vast improvement in the fashion industry where they are making fashion lines more modest and being more inclusive. So maybe they are struggling and not enjoying the stress of it all. Thinking what should I wear for specific events or which hijab colour should I wear. That could be another reason as to why they take it off, who knows.

There hasn’t been a time where I wanted to have my hair out because I done my hair and it looks awesome where I want to flaunt it because wearing the hijab you lose that feeling. As you have to tie it up and hide it away. So don’t get me wrong I have had those thoughts about what about one day I go out without it but then I can’t bring myself to do it because I feel like that my security blanket and I feel naked without it. I give props to the girls who take it off because actually it’s hard to do that first step. Doing that step is always a worry, you doubt yourself and you start to second guess yourself.

I mentioned different reason to why they could have taken it off however the big one is their faith and themselves. Being an influencer can change your views and your opinions about faith and religion to where you have different questions about it. You start to second guess and doubts what you can do and what you can’t do. You could lose yourself within wearing the hijab and you start to lose your faith you had because you are so busy you forget. I am not saying it’s their main reason but if they had a stronger faith they would not have taken it off. It’s just a sign to them to tell them they need to be closer and maybe the reason for taking it off to find that place because they are being true and humble to themselves. They want it be real and not lie because wearing the hijab has responsibilities and you present a lot in the Muslim culture.

Everyone has their own struggles in life and they have their own journey and by god. However we shouldn’t  judge or become meaner towards that person because what is hating doing to change their views or option. It won’t, it will just hate the culture even more and it will become toxic. We shouldn’t have to be mean, bitter or angry. We need to respect their decisions but it will always be a thought into mind as to why.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and I hope we start a conversation in the comments below.

Thank you my hunnies

Love Amina Natasha

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